When people think of domestic abuse, they often focus on domestic violence. But domestic abuse includes any attempt by one person in an intimate relationship or marriage to dominate and control the other. Domestic violence and abuse are used for one purpose and only one purpose: to gain and maintain total control over you.
Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, it doesn’t discriminate. Anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender can be a victim of domestic violence. Domestic violence includes behaviours that physically harms arouse fear, prevent a partner from doing what they wish or force them to behave in the way they do not want. It includes the use of physical and sexual violence, threats and intimidation, emotional abuse and economic deprivation. Many of these different forms can be occurring at any time within the same intimate relationship.
It’s not always easy to tell at the beginning of the relationship if it will be one abusive. The most common thing in abusive relationship is that the abusive partner does many thing to have more power an control over the partner. Seek of the signs of abusive relationship includes a partner who:
• Insult, demeans or shame you with put-down.
• Tells you that you can never do thing right.
• Show extremely jealous of your friends.
• Control every penny spent in the household.
• Refuse to give you money for necessary expenses.
• Control you, where you go and what you do.
• Prevents you from going to any social place.
• Prevents you from making you decision.
• Tells you that you are a bad parent.
• Pressure you to have sex even when you are not comfortable.
• Pressure you to use alcohol and drugs.
Seeking helps from your friends, relatives or someone close to you is the best way to protect yourself from above situation. Experience any one or two sign of above in a relation is a red flag and you should be aware of these.
Physical abuse is any intentional and unwanted contact with you or something close to your body. It can start slowly and unconsciously, it sometimes doesn’t painful but is still unhealthy.
SIGNS OF PHYSICAL ABUSE
• Shaking, slapping, pushing or punching.
• Destroying property and throwing things.
• Pushing or pulling you.
• Pulling your hair.
• Using weapons
• Spitting or biting
• Trying to strangle or choke.
• Forcing you for the sex.
• Sleeping and food deprivation.
If you are in abusive relationship then make safety plans for save your life.
Emotional abuse doesn’t leave physical scars but it have a serious impact on persons mental health and well being. Someone experiencing emotional abuse can feel anxious, depressed and even suicidal.
SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE
• Comparing partner with others in order to undermine their self esteem and self worth.
• Blaming the partner for all the problems.
• Intentionally embarrassing in public.
• Yelling, insulting or swearing at them.
• Controlling finance.
• Tell them what to wear.
• Preventing them from seeing their friends and family.
• Threatening suicide.
• Online humiliation and intimidation.
Person experience emotional abuse sometimes blame own for the situation. The constant criticism lower their self esteem and confident , making it very difficult to leave the abuse relationship.